2nd Opinion
Ok, so I finally did it, I made an appointment with another oncologist. I was given the name of a Dr. who came highly recommended, but he wasn't taking any new patients. I'm seeing one of his associates. I could of gotten in next week, but I'm scheduled for chemo and then the PET scan, so didn't want to mess that up. I will be seeing the "new" Dr. on July 16th.
Now for the interesting part of the story. I called my oncologist's office to request my medical records so I could have them for the "new" Dr. I had hoped that I could of just got them, gone to the "new" guy and then made a decision if I was going to go to him or stay with Dr. Fata. A day later I get a phone call from Dr. Fatas nurse practitioner. She tells me up front that she hates that Dr. Fata is having her call me to find out why I was "leaving". and that I don't have to tell her anything if I don't want. After hesitating, I decided what the hell and let loose. Funny thing, she finished my sentences several times, told me she's "heard that before" and listened to me for at least 15 minutes. She told me that she would pick out the "highlights" of our conversation and relay that to Dr Fata.
Several hours later, as Bob and I are finishing eating dinner and talking about the phone call from the nurse, my phone rings with a number that I don't recognize. Guess who????? Yep, Dr. Fata, calling me at 6:15. Not really sure how to describe the conversation... he said that he was very sorry if he hurt my feelings in any way,that he really cares for me and only wants the best for me. He said he would send me to have a 3rd opinion if I wanted it. We agreed to have a meeting in a conference room and that he would answer all of our questions, that he would show us the protocol for how my treatment should go, what we should expect etc. I told him that's what I've been asking for all along!!! Our conversation lasted at least 10 minutes and you would of thought I just broke up with him before going to the prom. I do know that I got his attention, and I truly think he's sincere with his apologies.
So we have a "meeting" with him on July 12th..... first appointment of the day...9:00am..... .to go over my treatment plan and for him to answer any questions that we have. I'm still going to go to get a 2nd opinion, and will take it from there.
Needless to say, my head hurts from all of this today.
Peace & Love
Now for the interesting part of the story. I called my oncologist's office to request my medical records so I could have them for the "new" Dr. I had hoped that I could of just got them, gone to the "new" guy and then made a decision if I was going to go to him or stay with Dr. Fata. A day later I get a phone call from Dr. Fatas nurse practitioner. She tells me up front that she hates that Dr. Fata is having her call me to find out why I was "leaving". and that I don't have to tell her anything if I don't want. After hesitating, I decided what the hell and let loose. Funny thing, she finished my sentences several times, told me she's "heard that before" and listened to me for at least 15 minutes. She told me that she would pick out the "highlights" of our conversation and relay that to Dr Fata.
Several hours later, as Bob and I are finishing eating dinner and talking about the phone call from the nurse, my phone rings with a number that I don't recognize. Guess who????? Yep, Dr. Fata, calling me at 6:15. Not really sure how to describe the conversation... he said that he was very sorry if he hurt my feelings in any way,that he really cares for me and only wants the best for me. He said he would send me to have a 3rd opinion if I wanted it. We agreed to have a meeting in a conference room and that he would answer all of our questions, that he would show us the protocol for how my treatment should go, what we should expect etc. I told him that's what I've been asking for all along!!! Our conversation lasted at least 10 minutes and you would of thought I just broke up with him before going to the prom. I do know that I got his attention, and I truly think he's sincere with his apologies.
So we have a "meeting" with him on July 12th..... first appointment of the day...9:00am..... .to go over my treatment plan and for him to answer any questions that we have. I'm still going to go to get a 2nd opinion, and will take it from there.
Needless to say, my head hurts from all of this today.
Peace & Love
posted by Marcia Bolam @ 8:40 PM
1 Comments:
At June 27, 2013 at 9:17 PM ,
ByNanasHands said...
Good for you Marcia. Being "proactive" in your treatment is key. Dr's don't seem to have the time these days to just have a civil conversation which is so sad. Your putting your very life in their hands and you get treated like this? I'm glad to hear you will follow through with the 2nd opinion, it can't hurt and you may like the new Dr. One doctor shouldn't be the "be all and end all" for you....someone may see things differently. I hope you get what you need from Dr. Fata when you have your conversation you deserve that much. Hugs....I know this wasn't easy for you to do but I'm SO glad you did it! Hugs and love cousin....hugs and love...
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